I don't include the 04 because it's pretty bare bones and has the smaller 5x100 bolt pattern, besides those things it's the same and would also be a good choice. The 05 and 06 are identical chassis wise, I think the 06 has taller gearing.05 isn't the hawkeye. Did they do a chassis redesign underneath the bodywork?
Absolutely bulletproof is a bit facetious for the 04-05 sti. Had a friend who went through 3 engines, all of which blew with ringland issues. One of which was completely stock.
I still can't ignore that price. We're talking C5's and C6's in great condition for that price. Or a Golf R that's 8 years newer and arguably more "bulletproof" than an sti.
Would you consider the Saab?
Your friend has a terrible engine tuner if he's blowing ring lands on the older ECU. They make 400whp quite reliably.